11 August 2008

People, Friendships, Relationships and... Escapism.

Hats off to life .. again.. and again. Another set of lessons! I might not be able to explain the lessons. But the following are the things I saw around me.

- Friends being drifted off to worlds apart....
- People being confused a lot...
- Escapism helps a lot of them... escape from the problem, escape from the confusing situation.

I am seeing that quite a lot lately - it teaches me a lot too. Like.., What not to do? How not to act? How not to think?

As I had said earlier... confusion is a good thing - it gives you clarity, even though it takes you through troubled times. But don't give up -- don't ever give up. Don't try to escape. Figure out the reason and fight the problem. If everything else fails, fall to the option of seeing things materialistically. Try to look into the future - try to see which action would do what in the future. Plan the actions accordingly. ***

Isn't life so simple? Like everyone else, I do have my fair share of problems, my fair share of demoralised, low moments. Still everything has always looked so clear to me. Even when there were confusions, I could steer clear of them (Not always very easily and sometimes with the help of the below mentioned friend; sometimes other friends too). Still, mostly, I have been able to ... perhaps because I am unknowingly learning from others.

As Vimal said, I have too much time to think. I should give a thought to giving less time for thoughts! ;)
Glad that it's not devil's workshop... YET! :)

Time to sleep. Signing off, Sands.

***: Easily said than done. ;)


Hiran said...

Easily said than done for your statement `Don't try to escape. Figure out the reason and fight the problem. If everything else fails, fall to the option of seeing things materialistically.`

That's not always possible. Sometimes, you just escape from the problem, if there is a dependent factor out of your control, say another person.

Sands | കരിങ്കല്ല് said...

I do get that part. Then escaping becomes the solution right? :)

Such cases are understandable.

But we do have many other occasion where we see people just escaping .. without figuring out things completely.

You know what? Sometimes some people even try to figure out and the problem is way too complicated to understand ... and they leave it - which is something which I can neither support nor oppose!

And - eda... ivide vannathil santhosham! :)
Ninte A.I. problem njan solve cheyyathe... escape aayi ;)

ഗീതാഗീതികള്‍ said...

To some extent I too am an escapist. I can't face the harsh realities of life. From such situations I try to escape.

Sands you are a GURU to me!!!
(And I envy your MOM.)

Sands | കരിങ്കല്ല് said...


Only to some extent right? That is acceptable :)

Regarding the last two lines: You made my day! :) -- Goosebumps! :)
Sharikkum! :) :) :) :)

Anonymous said...

I too am an escapist, chilappozhokke. Escapism - palppozhum athoru anugrahamanu,though Sandeep nu ippol athu manassilavunnillenkilum.

A Liberated Soul said...

Everyone seems to like the word escape. Even I do.

Hiran said...

Everyone in their life has escaped solving a problem, and no one is a true non-escapist (does that word exist?).

But the point is when someone faces a problem, which cannot be solved, they should at least appreciate the much better things they have in life. That will definitely make `life so simple'.

Sands | കരിങ്കല്ല് said...

Manassilaayi manassilaayi... ;)

First thing first : Welcome back ... after a long time. Glad to see you! :)

I am sure you like the word! (at least your blog portrays such an image) :)

Well, everyone does... and I am not saying that there is anyone who is a true non-escapist.

All I am trying to say is that try NOT to be a TRUE ESCAPIST. (this is where the dilemma of not being able to figure out the problem comes in)

The Lonely Backpacker said...

so.. where do I stand right now ?

Am I trying to escape or Am I trying to figure out a solution ?


Agree with your comment...

sreerenj said...

Oho,too much philosophical now!!

Sands | കരിങ്കല്ല് said...


You are way past my reach to be commented on ;)

[especially in public]


Idakkokke ithiri vattu vende?

Anonymous said...

How did I miss this article? I didn't see this before!!

Anyways, nice topic and nice comments.

I am escaping from commenting on the philosophy.. :P


Sands | കരിങ്കല്ല് said...


The article escaped your eyes!